This is for the SINGLES who didn't know how to say it and for the others who needs to here it.

This is for the SINGLES who didn't know how to say it and for the others who needs to here it.

Just love it when people see you and because you are single (but you have a child that you support) and think you should not have to have what someone else who have kids at home gets (weather it's money/time away/an ear to listen/some kind of sable life) and make the statement, "but you don't have a family", when I hear that it just makes me feel so warm inside. Singles have more taxes taken out, still have the same power bills, cable, phones, house payment, gas, insurance, offerings to give, gifts to give on holidays, cost for any entertainments, clothes, shoes, car payment and repairs and add to that CHILD SUPPORT TO A EX. plus other things your child needs. If your child lives out of state travel money/motel room payments/food while there/etc.

What singles don't have: Tax write offs, Head of house breaks, Child income credits, A spouse's support from a job, dinner at home (it cost more to cook for one than two or more and eating out gets expensive), Someone to come home to, children there or their voices or their hugs, someone to help with the washing/cleaning/yard work/repairs/around the house/cooking/shopping/someone to say good night too or good morning or how was your day or to cuddle with or the talk to when you just need someone (can I say most people are too busy to listen and just feel you need to get a life -- BTW we had one until it fail apart, thanks for the reminder).

---- PLEASE, to the singles who you see we didn't nor have we chosen to be at this place in our life. If we were once married do not think we did that in hopes of being there forever. It only takes one vote to end a marriage and two to start it, maybe we were not the one who voted to end it. If we truly loved our mate as God commands UNCONDITIONAL and we vowed to death do us part and they walked away, do we get to just stop loving and forget what we said as we made a promise to not just that person but to God, a preacher, our family and friends, to the person we married and don't forget to ourselves as well.

If we seem a little unhappy, down, lonely or a little negative maybe we are and the statements like, "you just need to find someone", "God has someone out there for you", "if you're single it's your own fault", and the good one "you have it made to do what you want". If we stay out late it might be because we had no reason to come home. Two of the hardest things to do is to face the front door everyday and go to the bedroom to go to bed. If I look tired I am because I might stay up until about dead to make it easy, maybe that's why I'm on facebook at this time.

Hey, when you read this post, please don't come to me and say, "you need help". Really!!! Thanks again for the reminder. That actual felt good ... Now about dead so I will go to bed so as to go to work to come home and do it all over again and wait for the next time I get to see my son.

There are some good things about being single; no one to see you cry, one one to hear you pray out loud for help and no one see you just fall into the bed after work so you can get strength to make the rest of the day to go to bed and do it all over again. I did not write this to hear pity or I will be praying for you or for you to to tell me off on here or in my presences (I got enough family and friend to do that and it does happen). No, just do this treat us like everyone else, we are not looking for anything other than to be seen as someone who is trying and has responsibility like anyone else. If you want us to go get something to eat just invite us we don't mind going even if we don't take someone because it sure beats eating alone.

Thanks for listening and for your single friends and family members just remember they are broken and healing does take time. If you have gone through it and doing well, maybe we don't heal as fast as you or our love might have been deeper and it cause more hurt. Please, be careful as you says, I got over it and moved on, you just need to forget the past and be happy. Do you not think we want to!!!!!

Love,
KEM